Domestic abuse and domestic violence are terms often used as synonyms, but understanding the differences between the two is crucial. This can help you put yourself in the shoes of someone who is going through this, show you understand, and help them out of this situation. If you are a victim, this information may help you understand if the situation you are going through is part of an abusive or violent pattern.

You are not alone.

Domestic Abuse: The Silent Manipulator

Domestic abuse is a pattern of behavior used by one person to gain and maintain control over another. It encompasses various forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, financial, and sexual abuse. Unlike domestic violence, domestic abuse does not always involve physical harm. It can be subtle, insidious, and often goes unnoticed by those outside the relationship.

Emotional and Psychological Abuse: This involves undermining an individual’s self-worth or self-esteem. It can include constant criticism, name-calling, and manipulation. The abuser may use guilt, fear, and intimidation to control their partner.

Financial Abuse: This form of abuse restricts the victim’s ability to acquire, use, and maintain financial resources. The abuser may control all the finances, limit the victim’s access to money, or forbid them from working.

Sexual Abuse: This includes any sexual act performed without consent. It’s a particularly pernicious form of abuse because it often involves manipulation and threats.

Domestic Violence: The Visible Threat

Domestic violence, on the other hand, specifically refers to physical harm. It is often easier to identify because it leaves visible marks and scars. However, the emotional and psychological impacts are equally, if not more, devastating.

Physical Abuse: This includes hitting, slapping, punching, and other forms of physical harm. The abuser uses physical force to intimidate and control their partner.

Sexual Violence: Any forced sexual act or behavior without consent falls under this category. It often overlaps with physical abuse but is a distinct and severe form of violence on its own.

The Intersection of Abuse and Violence

While domestic abuse and domestic violence are distinct, they often intersect. Physical violence is usually accompanied by other forms of abuse, creating a complex web of control that is difficult for the victim to escape. The abuser’s goal is always the same: to dominate and control their partner.

Why Understanding the Difference Matters

Recognizing the difference between domestic abuse and domestic violence is crucial for several reasons. It helps in:

1. Providing the Right Support: Different forms of abuse require different interventions. Understanding the specific nature of the abuse can lead to more effective support and resources for victims.
2. Raising Awareness: By educating ourselves and others about the nuances of abuse and violence, we can better identify and address these issues in our communities.
3. Encouraging Victims to Seek Help: Victims often feel isolated and misunderstood. If you show you understand the different forms of abuse and violence that exist, you can create a more supportive environment that encourages victims to seek help.

Stand With Her: Supporting Women in Brazil

In Brazil, the Stand With Her program, led by Juliana Soria, is at the forefront of providing vital services to women facing domestic abuse and domestic violence. The program offers legal and psychological assistance, helping women navigate out of abusive situations and rebuild their lives.

Juliana Soria and her team work tirelessly to support these women, but they cannot do it alone. The need for expanded support is urgent. In 2021 alone, 1,341 women died as a result of domestic violence in Brazil, according to the Atlas do Violencia by IPEA.

Your Support Can Make a Difference

Understanding domestic abuse and domestic violence is the first step towards making a difference. But we need your help to continue our work. By donating to Stand With Her, you are directly supporting women in Brazil who are fighting for their lives and their freedom.

Your contribution can provide legal aid, counseling, and a safe space for women escaping abusive relationships. Together, we can create a world where every woman feels safe and valued.

Donate now and stand with her.

Let’s make a difference, one life at a time.